Why You Might Grieve Your First Before Your Second Comes Along

🤍 Why You Might Feel Sad Before Your Second Baby Arrives

I remember holding my first baby and crying.

I was pregnant with my second, and instead of just feeling excited, I felt this deep sadness I wasn’t expecting. I kept thinking… everything is about to change for her.

She wasn’t going to be my only baby anymore.
She wasn’t going to have all of me anymore.

And I felt so guilty.

No one really talks about this part of pregnancy. The part where you’re growing one baby while quietly grieving the season you’re about to leave behind with another.

🤍 The Moment It Really Hit Me

I remember when I started getting contractions at home, at 36 + 5days.

My daughter was only two and a half and all of a sudden it hit me… this is it. Her world is about to change and she has no idea what that means for her.

I got down on my knees, trying to hold back the tears and gave her the biggest hug.

She looked at me and said, “Mummy what’s wrong?”

And I said, “The baby is coming bubba.”

She was so calm. So caring. So understanding. Just watching me as I rushed around grabbing her overnight bag and my hospital things as we rushed out the door.

I can still remember exactly how I felt in that moment.

🤍 It’s More Common Than You Think

If you’re feeling emotional about your first while pregnant with your second, you are not alone.

So many mums feel this.

You’re not taking something away from your first child.
You’re just aware of how special this time has been.

And that awareness can feel really heavy.

🤍 The Guilt Is Real

I remember worrying that I was about to change her world forever.

Would she feel pushed aside?
Would she feel less loved?
Would she miss the version of life we had?

These thoughts can creep in, especially in those quiet moments.

🤍 What No One Tells You

What you’re feeling isn’t loss.

It’s love.

It’s the kind of love that makes you stop and really take in this chapter before it changes.

🤍 Looking Back Now

Now that my youngest is three, I can honestly say this.

It was the best gift I ever gave my daughter.

Growing up, I only had one older brother, and I always felt a little envious of my friends who had sisters. Now having two girls of my own, I can wholeheartedly say it is one of the most wonderful things I have ever done in my life.

I often find myself watching them together and welling up with tears.

My eldest is the most loving, caring, protective big sister. She has her back in a way that only a sister can.

Nothing makes me happier than watching the two of them together and knowing that for the rest of their lives, they will have each other. Someone to lean on, to grow with, to walk through life with… even long after I’m gone.

Your heart doesn’t split.

It grows.

🤍 A Gentle Reminder

If you’re in this season right now, feeling a mix of excitement and sadness, just know…

Both can exist at the same time.

And this chapter, right now, is worth remembering too.

🤍 Capture This Special Time

If you’ve also been having some anxiety regarding the pregnancy overall and all the added pressure that come with monitoring baby's movement etc check out my recent blog that talks all about it HERE

And if you’re in this in-between season, growing your family while wanting to hold onto what you have right now… this is exactly why my bump to baby pregnancy photography packages have become so popular.

Having professional maternity photos taken from the start of your journey through to welcoming your baby is such a special way to hold onto these moments. Especially before baby number two or three arrives and everything shifts again.

These are the memories you’ll look back on one day and feel so grateful you captured.

Click the button below to get the ball rolling and I hope to work with you soon 

Stace x